Learning to Help Yourself - With the Help of the Horse

Not many people think of working with horses aspredator, while also preserving your safety. Using
a way to help yourself; but in fact that is exactlythe rope also teaches you to "give up control;" in
what can happen. When you work to train aother words, you must "listen" to the rope in
horse, you are working with the mind, and onceorder to roll it up. This parallels listening to the
you have the mind, the rest of the body follows.horse; after all, the horse teaches us to teach
As you teach the horse about Man's World (ashim. Using the rope allows you to practice this
you know it), you use your own natural mentalmindset. The first step is to change your way of
skills. In turn, the horse will in turn put you back inthinking. If your attitude truly is "How can I help
touch with nature, while allowing you to findyou?" your focus will be on "listening" to what the
balance within yourself and be the best that youhorse is telling you to do to accomplish your
can be. The better you are, the better the horsepicture. This takes the pressure off of you and
will be.allows you to be "in the zone." You have a picture
It's all about changing your mindset. Your job is toand the horse tells you what to do to create the
help your horse learn about "Man's World." Inpicture. The more you improve the horse's
order to do that, you first need to understandknowledge, the easier your task will be. This type
how to go into his world. One successful way isof work can help a trainer who is already working
to change the attitude of "Do what I tell you towith a rider to improve in a particular discipline. can
do" into "How can I help you?" When people learnbenefit horses and riders in all disciplines.
to become the alpha in a herd of two (the herdWhile doing this work, there are five rules. Rule
being made up of the horse and the person) this#1: There are no rules. Rule #2: Your safety. Rule
"How can I help you?" mindset is at work. The#3: The safety of the horse. Rule #4:
lifestyle of a horse is different in his natural settingConservation. Rule #5: See rule #1. While following
as opposed to the environment we bring him into.these rules, participants often see that the
For example, in the herd, there is a certainsituations that occur in the round pen often parallel
pecking order where he has a number ofor "mirror" situations that occur in their lives. In
teachers. When we bring him into our world, weworking to help the horse, you can also work on
need to teach him about the world he is comingchanging negative habits that you have acquired
into, and become "the alpha" of the herd of two.and work toward self-improvement. In fact,
In the round pen you simulate life. In order toalthough this work is used for horse owners and
establish yourself as the "alpha", the initial work istrainers, it can be used to improve relationship
based on four tasks: movement, direction, rhythmskills for couples or families. For example, in
and track. In working with a horse, you use yourworking with the horse, children can learn
body to apply pressure, the same way that youparenting skills by setting boundaries for their
use your legs and reins when you ride. In thehorse. For a career professional, as you learn to
round pen, your body represents your reins andbe committed to helping the horse stay on track
the pressure you put on represents your legs. Inin the round pen, you can envision the parallels to
other words, pressure means something, but thebeing committed to staying on track in your
horse tells you how much pressure to apply. Incareer. Round pen work can even be used in
this situation, you practice giving up control,addition to traditional therapy methods. A local
thereby being in control and setting the exampletherapist has seen positive results with her clients.
for the horse. This is a way you can practice"(This work) brought each individual's patterns and
your riding, as well as your timing, your feel, andfeelings to the surface as they attempted to
many other things, all without actually riding thehave the horse complete the task they were
horse. It can be the beginning of a step by stepgiven or the task they gave themselves. In each
process of gaining his trust so that you can build ainstance, the horse became the mirror for where
solid foundation. After the initial work, athey were, where they were stuck, or what they
systematic approach is used to test the body,were feeling. As a therapist, it is important to me
first along one side, front to back, then moving tothat the client discovers his or her own
the other side, because for every horse, there"monsters." The issues became glaringly apparent
are two horses, the left and the right. "We do thisto the client who is working with the horse in the
to test the body in order to find if we get around pen and, in this case, to the family
negative response or one of the three "F's"members observing the process." The work can
(freeze, flee or fight) due to a lack ofalso benefit business/corporate and school groups
understanding. Depending on the reaction from thewith the emphasis on self esteem and
horse, we can tell if there are issues in that partteambuilding. Urica Pope, Program Coordinator for
of the body, mentally transforming "mistakes" orthe Creative Services Department of South
negatives into positives because we know whichCarolina ETV, worked in 2004 with Anderson and
areas need work. Finally, after the ground work,groups of young girls participating in a gender
when you add the saddle, bridle and rider, youequity program. "There is a valuable lesson to be
have a harmonious relationship and a partner wholearned from it," said Pope. "We chose this
is ready to work with you. If the initial experienceprogram because it deals with leadership. We
is positive, a solid foundation is laid and awant the girls to work together and with the
remarkable partnership will develop. During thishorse as a team-building program." For Bobbi
process a two-fold thing is happening. You thinkKennedy, vice president for continuing education
you're there to teach horses, but in the end,at S.C. ETV, the goal is teaching young girls that
they're teaching you about yourself.they can "take on a complex topic and master it."
Many times we teach horses to be dependent onKennedy said that the girls don't just learn for
us by telling them where to go and what to do;themselves but learn how to work as a team, a
we always have something attached, whether itconcept that is a constant theme in the program.
is a halter and lead line or bridle and reins. WeIn workshops with Anderson using two horses,
take away these artificial attachments, and bythe girls also covered topics such as anger
using pressure, one of his natural forms ofmanagement, self confidence and how to say
communication, ask for what you would like,"no."
allowing the horse to make choices for himselfThe nice thing about this work is that it allows
and learn about consequences if he makes theyou to be the best that you can be. If you come
wrong choices. This allows you the opportunity toto the round pen and do something that you are
simulate life in our world and let him know whatafraid to do, and do it well, you will build your self
can happen to him in when he makes that mentalesteem. With horses as a representative of
choice. Having no attachments can be annature, in working with them, people are getting
advantage that can help you to strengthen yourback in touch with the environment through the
"mind power." While you are increasing yourhorse, thereby finding balance in both worlds,
mental skills, you are building confidence in your"Man's World" and "Nature's World." Give a man a
horse and at the same time building your ownfish, feed him for the day; teach a man to fish,
self-empowerment. This also allows the horse tofeed him for a lifetime: but you've got to let him
rely on his natural instincts and gives you theget to the pond. If we stay on the path that
opportunity to practice life skills such as listening,we're on, there quite possibly may be no fish left
timing, feel, patience, and many more. While in thein the pond. Horses are helping humans find
round pen, one of the tools is a 35' lariat, whichbalance in their lives, thereby showing that once
can be used as an extension of your arm. Thisagain, as they did in the past, horses can play a
makes it possible to "reach out and touch thevital role in our society.
horse" without making it necessary to act as aCopyright (c) Nature's View, Inc.